Dear Sisters,

In love, vulnerability is a dance of trust, but it can be complicated by male expectations that women embody softness. Cultural norms, as Ridgeway & Nakagawa (2021) note, often frame women as emotionally expressive, inviting men to step into protective roles. For many men, our vulnerability—tears, exhaustion, or a need for support—is a call to cherish us, deepening intimacy. Yet, this expectation can feel like a double bind, especially for Black women navigating the “strong Black woman” stereotype.

When we assert our strength or desires, some men may pull back, conditioned by society to prefer passive femininity. On X, @RaceAndLove (January 2025) notes that in interracial relationships, Black women’s agency can feel threatening to partners shaped by stereotypes. To navigate this, communicate your boundaries with grace, ensuring your vulnerability is mutual, not one-sided. Prioritize self-care and seek partners who honor your full feminine essence—strong, soft, and authentic.

How do you handle expectations of vulnerability in relationships? Share your wisdom below or on X, and let’s empower each other.

With love and grace,
Dawn – Femininity Regained